I have mentioned D, Mickey’s girlfriend of about a year before. I don’t know, nor do I need to know what her diagnosis is, but she is a very sweet girl with severe anxiety. His teacher said Mickey has helped her so much in the last year, that the difference in her and in his realization that he can help rather than hinder someone else when they are acting out.
Last night Mickey surprised me by handing the phone to me while he was talking to D. He handed it to me and said “I invited D and her mother to the zoo this weekend, so tell D when to meet us”. I deferred because we weren’t planning to go to the zoo and I dislike being on the spot, so I told D I would have to get back to her after Mickey and I discussed this.
Mickey’s plea was simple and sweet. “Momma, D’s family doesn’t have much money. D doesn’t get to go to things like the zoo ever. She likes me to tell her all about Disney and the zoo and holiday world and when I do, she gets upset because she hasn’t ever been to any of those places. I read our zoo membership card and it includes 2 adults and up to 4 kids, so I thought it would be nice if we took her so she could go for the first time. It is really important to me and you know how much she loves animals, so couldn’t we take her?”
Well, I can’t resist a plea like that, but more importantly the sweetness and desire to share are not traits we always see in Mickey. So, we talked about discussing these things with me first and I sent a note to her mom. Her mom called tonight and was near tears as she thanked us profusely for giving D this opportunity since it isn’t one they could afford otherwise. I invited D’s brother too, because we have room on our pass. She shyly asked what we would be doing about lunch and if it would be possible to pack a lunch. I told her that we would be bringing sandwiches (which is not what we normally do, though we do bring snacks) and she sighed with relief. So, tomorrow Me, Minnie, Mickey, D and her mom and brother are doing the zoo. I am glad that the family pass we bought will help another family enjoy the zoo that my children have been to at least a dozen times.
We are not wealthy, by any stretch, but I do make a good living. Money gets tight sometimes, but we do have a good life and we do lots of things like this on a regular basis. This is something I sometimes take for granted, even while I sometimes struggle to pay for these activities. They make my children happy so I prioritize them, but that is because I have the luxury of being able to do so. I am glad that we get to make another kid happy tomorrow. I am very proud of Mickey for not only planning this but for articulating why it was important to take D. I hope it is a fun day for them. My social anxiety makes it hard for me to meet other people and normally the idea of spending the day with strangers would send me into full on panic mode, but I am going to power through (and take my anxiety med :-)) because this is more important than that.
Mickey is beside himself excited and has charged his camera and already packed the snack bag. My fingers are crossed that D’s anxiety levels are okay tomorrow and that Mickey doesn’t let his excitement derail the excellent behavior we have seen this week so that we can go enjoy the day. Minnie is always at her happiest around animals and she is eager to show D the orangutans that were adopted for us earlier this year. We are looking forward to an exciting zoo day tomorrow. I will let you know how it goes.